Making a tough decision. That proverbial fork in the road. I know it would be easier to shake that magic 8-ball, but we all know that making certain decisions isn’t always that easy. I want to give you some tips, pointers, encouragement and support because you may be right smack in the midst of tough decision time and I know how important it is to find clarity and feel confident about your decision.
Ten Things to Consider when Making a Difficult Decision
1. You don’t have to see the entire path yet…just the part where the fork in the road is. Like driving your car at night, you generally can’t see much further than your headlights, and somehow that is enough. Bring yourself into the present moment, and make the decision here and now. No one knows the future, and all of your power is in the present moment. What does it feel like right now to decide one way or the other? What do you feel when you consider each possible decision. Your feelings are a miracle! Pay attention to them.
2. Instead of telling yourself that you “should” do this (or that), ask yourself what you want to do. There are no shoulds.
3. All possible actions have only one of two driving forces…Fear or Love. What is driving your decision? Fear based decisions are generally not the best choices. Choose love. ♥
4. Check your boundaries…if you are tolerating something chances are your boundaries are weak in this area. What choice would you make if your boundaries were stronger?
5. Get some rest. Sleep deprivation is a form of torture. Generally speaking tortured individuals make choices they might regret later. Make your decision after a good night of rest. If possible, take this a step further with a short meditation prior to your decision making moment.
6. REMEMBER: There are no mistakes. What would you choose if you truly believed that you couldn’t make a wrong choice?
7. When you step back and observe (rather than judging), what do you know for sure about the situation?
8. Success often depends on taking imperfect action. Allow yourself to make a less than “perfect” decision. Perfectionism is not about wanting things to be perfect, it is about wanting to feel safe.
9. Chances are if you are trying to make a tough decision there may be a lot of people giving you advice. What advice would you give if someone you loved dearly was making this decision? I once coached a woman who was in an abusive relationship and trying to decide whether to stay or go. I asked her what advice she would give her daughter if her daughter was being abused. Her answers were very different from what she had previously come up with for herself.
10. Let others know what you want, and whatever it is that you want, put it out there for someone else too. If you want love, give love. If you want kindness, be kind. If you need space, allow others to have space. What is it that you really want in this decision? Find an opportunity to give that same thing to someone else, even in a small way.
My wish is that these ideas will help shed some light on your path, and that you will always choose the lighted path, no matter how dim. 🙂
Love & Magic,
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