Q&A: How Do I Know If I’m Ready for a New Relationship?

How do I know if I am ready for a new relationship?

“How do I know if I am ready for a new relationship?”

I’m guessing that your motivation for asking is that you want to make sure you don’t jump into a “rebound relationship“.

Although I have heard people say that you should wait at least 6-months to 1-year before you are ready to date again after a break-up or a divorce, I don’t think there is any prescribed amount of time.

I do believe you need to have mended from any major emotional pain.  You’ll know you have let go of those hurts when you don’t have a strong emotional charge connected to them anymore.

You’ll want to be very clear on exactly what you want your new relationship to look like.

Get a very clear picture of what you require, and what your deal-breakers are.

Recognize that you are a whole person who wants to partner with another whole person. You don’t need someone else to complete you.  You want someone else to be the other half of the couple that will be the two of you.

You will have a life of your own, with interests, hobbies, friends, social activities.

You will have the knowledge that you can find peace, happiness, and joy within yourself, and you will have had the experience of doing so.

If you know that everything you need is within you, if you know exactly what you want in a partner, if you realize that your life is pretty damn good right now in this present moment, you’re probably ready.

If your heart is still hurting, you’re probably not ready.  Be sure to check out my FREE e-Book, Healing for a Broken Heart.

Heal first, and when you are ready for that new relationship, it will happen.

Love & Magic,


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4 Responses to Q&A: How Do I Know If I’m Ready for a New Relationship?

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  2. Your comment about one whole person partnering with another whole person is so spot on. Despite what Jerry McQuire might purport, partners that seek completion through fusing with another are usually disappointed. However, partners who seek to complement one another, are generally happily surprised to find that two wholes work better than two halves…at least within the context of a relationship. Very excited about finding your blog. Looking forward to reading more.

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