The Love vs. Fear Factor

“There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create. Evolution and all hopes for a better world rest in the fearlessness and open-hearted vision of people who embrace life.” John Lennon

How do we know which force is driving us? Determining the force behind a belief, a choice, an action, can be complicated because decisions based upon fear can often be rationalized as a logical choice, and often we decide the logical choice is obviously the right one, but love isn’t always logical.

Our thoughts are powerful. Buddha said, “All that we are is the result of what we have thought. The mind is everything. What we think, we become.”

The ability to be aware, indeed the habit of mindfulness, is a key here. What we think, we become. Our body tells us much about what we are becoming, if we will listen. When we pay attention to our body, we notice that when we are fearful, our breathing is shallow, our muscles tighten, we become constricted, we literally start to close up. When we love, we open up, we relax, we let go, we shine.

To open our bodies and minds to a place of love, and to relax without fear, we can use the powerful tool of meditation.

As our body and mind quiet and relax, we become less constricted, we can let go of fearfulness, we can embrace the power of love.

Meditative practice allows us to gain clarity, become more intuitive, reduce our stress levels, become healthier, and as we practice mindfulness, we develop an awareness of what our body is feeling and that is a huge key to the fear vs. love factor.

I want to encourage you to learn to meditate, and if you already know how, I want to encourage you to begin your practice anew with the intention to release any fearfulness hiding within you and to open up to love, more and more. This is an amazing and powerful action you can take starting now, to bring more Love & Magic into your life.

And although many of the images I see depicting meditation show a person doing yoga on a gorgeous beach, you don’t need to practice yoga to meditate (although you may love it once you try it) and you don’t need a beach. Just find a quiet place where you can be undisturbed, sitting or lying down in a relaxed position for a while (I’ve read studies that say you need 7 minutes at minimum, and a recent poll I read said that most people really prefer 20 minutes – long enough to be very effective, short enough to fit into a busy schedule).

You can sit in stillness and quiet, focusing on your breath or sounds in nature (birds!), or listen to a guided meditation (often easier at first because you can focus on the spoken words that are ‘guiding’ you and your mind will wander less.) It is a very simple, powerful practice that anyone can immediately derive benefit from.

To support you in beginning (or continuing!) a meditative practice I’ve created a 20-minute guided meditation called Meditation for Attracting Love.

Up until now it has only been available as part of my 7-Figure Relationship Package, but I’ve gotten so much feedback about it that I wanted to offer this beautiful 20-minute guided meditation to you today, for just $8!

Whether you use this guided meditation or just sit in stillness, I encourage you to give yourself this gift and begin becoming mindful and aware of what you feel in your body. Your feelings are a miracle, and your body speaks the truth to you. You are an amazing being, with the capacity to be filled with love, and create a magical life!

Love & Magic,


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10 Responses to The Love vs. Fear Factor

  1. Amy Putkonen says:

    Awesome link! Thanks, Cindie! <3

  2. Cassandra says:

    So much beautiful truth in this. I’ve fallen off the wayside of a meditation practice, but it’s something I’m trying to make a habit of because it does so much good. And I love the idea of opening up to love and allowing it to permeate over the fear. I’m going to remember this anytime I feel my body reacting in fear when it should be opening to love.

    • Cindie says:

      Thank you, Cassandra. Love ALWAYS triumphs over fear, if we give it space! I think you are spot on about making a habit of meditation, every single time I find myself getting away from a regular practice it is because other things got in the way of it being a habit (travel especially, different time zones, extra busyness, etc.) I appreciate your beautiful words and comments. Thank you xo

  3. Donna says:

    I love that quote – I’ve never heard that before. Thank you for the reminder to make my meditation practice more of a priority. I am just about to go away, so I’ve been ditching my meditation practice in favour of ‘getting stuff done’, and of course, not doing as much as I would if I meditated! x

    • Cindie says:

      Hi Donna, I’m always reminding myself to make meditation a priority too! 🙂 Glad you enjoyed the post. Thank you so much for reading and I do appreciate your comments so much. xo 🙂

  4. LOVE IT! And paying attention to how you feel is SOOOO the best way to tell where you are operating from. Thanks for sharing xoxo

  5. Leanne says:

    So many of your posts resonate with me Cindie, including this one – I love visiting your beautiful blog <3

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