“We must be willing to let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the life that is waiting for us.” – Joseph Campbell
Every week I get email from readers asking about relationships, and the most popular questions have to do with how one can get the ultimate relationship, the one they dream of, how can they find their soulmate, how can they find ‘true love’.
These questions come from a deep place of dissatisfaction. A place of wanting something different, something new, something real.
Often all that is needed to open a space for this new thing to show up is for the person to make a shift. A shift in perspective, a shift in what they will accept, a shift in environment.
Shift. As a coach, I hear this word often. Sometimes I’m hearing my client say it, “I’m ready for a big shift”. Sometimes I’m the one suggesting it.
Dictionary.com, (one of my favorite iPhone apps BTW) defines shift this way: to put (something) aside and replace it by another or others; to change or exchange.
In order to make a shift, something has to give! Something has to go.
When we want a certain thing, we have to let go of something else to make space, whether energetically, physically, or emotionally.
A shift requires letting go. Letting go of a relationship that isn’t working. Letting go of expectations. Letting go of old ideas. Letting go of what you’re tolerating.
Letting go can be painful, scary, emotional. And we often resist it for too long. Someone once said that what we resist persists. And this is true, as long as we are holding on to the way things are, we cannot have anything else. We must let go to have a shift.
“When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.” – Lao Tzu
Are you ready for a shift? What are you willing to let go of?
Love & Magic,
P.S. If you’re interested in working with me one on one to make that shift, the first step is here.