Why Are You Tolerating This?

“Why have you been tolerating this for so long?”, I asked.  Not once, not twice, but three times this week I asked that question.

Three different conversations where I recognized that the issues my clients were dealing with were long term items that had somehow just become the “way things are.”

Maybe the question could have been “Have you suffered enough?”

That may sound harsh, but the truth is we get what we tolerate, and we tolerate it until we’ve suffered enough.

I remember several years ago my son asked me why people often stay in unsatisfying relationships for such a long time.

My answer was, “When the pain of the current situation becomes greater than the person’s perceived pain of making a change, they’ll make the change.”

Although this idea definitely applies to relationships,  these questions can be applied to absolutely any situation in your life that you are not happy with.

Something as trivial as a leaky faucet or a burned out porch-light, a cluttered closet…or as major as an abusive relationship or a difficult school/job/career situation.

Tolerations cause stress and resistance.  Stress and resistance lead to resentment, communication breakdowns, frustration, depression, and illness.  (Seriously, studies show that an overwhelming percentage of diseases are stress related.)

On the other hand, when we stop tolerating things we release tension and resistance and suddenly feel more energy, more flow, and more synchronicity.  We feel lighter, more free, and more open.

This is the place where suffering can end and magic and miracles can begin.

You get what you tolerate.  Have you suffered enough?

Love & Magic,




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5 Responses to Why Are You Tolerating This?

  1. Brian Spicer says:

    Hi Cindie,
    I believe we tolerate things is due to our lack of self worth.
    If one valued themselves highly, had high self esteem it would be unconscionable to accept the conditions and more importantly because one resonated at this level others would not treat them poorly.

    Best Regards,

    • admin says:

      Hi Brian,
      Yes, so often we do tolerate things because of the way we value our self. And sometimes just recognizing that we do not have to accept the status quo is enough to move us to a place of action, a place of moving forward. 🙂 Once we begin to take action (whether that means something small like *finally* fixing the dripping faucet or something much bigger, like changing a relationship), we send out a “different signal” or “vibration” that does indeed create a different outcome.
      Thank you so much for reading and also for your insightful comment!

  2. Tracey says:

    Cindie~ what an amazing recap of my past few weeks. Your post resonated with my every experience and thoughts these past few weeks that I was incredibly compelled to say ” thank you” for your words. They helped me feel more supported by the universe in knowing I am not alone and I too can create a bigger brighter life. Thank you !!!!

    • admin says:

      Hi Tracey,
      I want to thank you for taking the time not only to read the blog, but to comment and let me know how it landed with you. I appreciate that so much! The Universe is indeed always supporting you, glad that I could be involved in some way! 🙂
      I am excited to know you are intentional about creating a brighter life!
      Go for it!!

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