A Moment of Clarity


Do you know what you want, or just what you DON’T want?
Have you ever noticed that many times people are very aware of what they don’t want, as opposed to really knowing what they do want?
Even in answering the simplest questions this habit of thought becomes apparent.  “What would you like for lunch?” we might ask, and the answer may sound like, “Well, I had pizza for dinner last night so I don’t want that, and I don’t want Chinese food, we had that yesterday…” etc.

Knowing what you don’t want can be very valuable when you allow that knowledge to help you clarify what you do want.

When we stay focused on what we don’t want, we are focusing on the problem.  When we begin to think about what we do want, we are beginning to be focused on the solution.  This is the shift we need to make to create positive changes.

Think of that situation in your life that you are not completely crazy about.  It may be a job, or a relationship, or some other thing in your life that is less than optimum.   I am sure you can think of the things you do not like about it.  Grab a notepad, and make a list.  Start by listing the five things that you really wish were different about the situation.  Now work your way down the list and see what you would rather have.  Maybe you don’t like the hours your job requires of you, well then, what hours would you like?
If you don’t know what you want, you’ll certainly never get it.
Take a moment to really get some clarity about what you want your life to look like.  It is the first step in creating the life you want.

Here’s to getting what you want,


Photographer: Salvatore Vuono

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